Do you ever wish you could just freeze the whole world and have everyone’s attention? Just for a few minutes. So you could tell them this very important thing that if everyone understood, the world would be so, so much better?
If I could tell the world just 6 things, they would be…
1. Slow. Down. Stop at the Stop sign. Don’t go through the red lights. Leave some breathing room in between commitments. It’s okay. You’ll get there in time. You’ll get it all done, and if you don’t get it all done, you’ll get enough done. We’re just so rushed all the time. Late for work, late for a meeting, late for an appointment. Just slow down. It’s not good for your heart, it’s dangerous when you’re rushing on the road, and statistically you’re not likely to save any time. You’re actually likely to lose time because we make stupid mistakes when we’re rushing. Slow. Down.
2. Be nice. We think the rules don’t apply to us because we know what they’re really like, and grown-up rules are different than kid rules. But maybe if we went by the kid rules once in a while and listened to each other like we teach our children to do, maybe if we went by the kid rules and apologized and forgave each other, we’d be doing a little better. For the most part, we’re all just trying to get through the day, okay? Remember everyone is fighting something, and everyone deserves kindness. If that’s truly too difficult, heed Thumper’s advice & if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
3. Please, say ‘Thank you’. When someone lets you into traffic, put your hand up. If someone holds open a door for you, at least give them a head nod. Let them know you acknowledge their kindness. It won’t hurt you. It’s just the decent thing to do. Manners. Just basic manners.
4. Rest. Just, chill out. It’s not that serious. Yes, crappy stuff happens. Yes, some things need your reactionary self to react. But most things do not. It’s not ‘just your luck’ that the milk will run out on the wrong day, or that the dog will piddle when you have guests over. It happens to everyone. And you need to chill. Nothing – nothing – is worth risking your health over, which is exactly what you’re doing when you keep yourself hyped up all the time. Think of all the times where things worked out. Think of all the times when what you worried about didn’t even happen.
5. Single guys and gals: please, stop trying to impress everyone. You are worth knowing, you are worth loving. We like you better when you have your Impress Me face off and your Just Me face on. The person you’re trying to impress likely has their Impress Me face on, too, so imagine the possibilities if you both shed your masks, didn’t care what other people thought, and just had an honest-to-goodness, real, vulnerable conversation. Scary stuff, but the stuff a good life is made of.
6. Stop complaining. We live in a first world nation, folks. We are handed more entitlements, more cushy comforts, than any other people on this planet. Nothing is perfect, so show some grace when things aren’t exactly 100% the way you wanted them. Focus on what you have accomplished, what you have received, what you have been able to do. Things could always, always be worse. If I can look at a photo of a 30-year-old woman who has a toddler and is battling cancer, yet continues to brighten the world with her first-class, genuine smile, you can handle your WiFi not working for a night or your waiter not getting your order 100% accurate.
I think if I could tell the world these things, we’d be doing better.